There is an article circulating the interwebs from House Beautiful titled “13 Things Designers Notice the First Time They Enter Your Home” and it’s caused much discussion in the world of Designers and Decorators. OMG, is THIS why no one wants us to come over??? Fear of judgement???
Last year I went to a birthday party at my dear friend’s house. Her home is very lived in, she has 3 kids, and it’s a cozy, wonderful place for us to hang out with them. I love going there. When I entered, I could tell they had all been working very hard to super-clean it, and I complimented my friend. You know what she heard? That I thought she was a messy housekeeper. #HEARTBROKEN Oh, to think that she felt I was complaining about her home in it’s wonderful lived-in-ness was horrible! Please don’t think that dearest! I love you for who you are, nothing else.
I Swear, I Didn’t Even Notice It…
Just like in our own homes, Interior Decorators and Designers easily look past most of the things mentioned in that article. Okay, so maybe if your art is crooked I notice, but that’s more OCD than occupational hazard.
And if you read through the HB article, you see that the interior specialists in question refer to “entering their clients home” over and over again. Yep, we aren’t judging our friends, our family, or even ourselves to the standards that someone who hires us for our expertise is experiencing. Hello – that’s why they called us! They WANTED our opinions and creative genius! You want someone who is going to get this crap done and get you out of DIY Hell, right?
And another thing…
We aren’t even really looking closely at those rooms you DIDN’T hire us to handle. Unless there is a really great piece of furniture stashed in a room and we want to use it in the room we’re redecorating for you, there is very little chance you’ll find us mentally rearranging your entire house. We’re already in brain overload just trying to figure out what you DO want done.
My Home Isn’t Perfect, Either
Please don’t assume that it is. My kitchen cabinets still don’t have doors, nor real countertops. My finished basement that flooded in May still hasn’t been repaired (grrr). Which means my office at home is practically unusable and I go to my parent’s business, where I have a second office, to work. My husband’s garage looks like something from Hoarders. I’ve yet to go back through the dining room and repair the nail holes from attaching the chair rail (that’s being held off until we install the crown moulding and trim work, as we finish the kitchen). There are probably dust bunnies on steroids in a corner. There is currently a desk on my front porch, along with a weight bench, because it’s been too hot too move furniture to storage. The guest room is a mosh-posh of items left behind by my middle child that I must now sort and store as I start redecorating that room. The pool motor is on it’s last legs and is noisy, but no point in replacing it until the end of the season – we’re just nice and don’t run it while the next door neighbors are showing their house for sale.
BUT – I have plans for all of it. As time and weather allow for each of these things to be complete, they will be. Having a plan to conquer my chaos keeps me sane.
So please, don’t hesitate to invite me over for a glass of wine. I won’t hesitate to let you in to my chaos, either. Is this an “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours” relationship? Perhaps. But it will always be a Judgement-Free Zone. So pour a glass of wine and tell yourself
I’M GOING TO GET MY HOUSE TOGETHER
Make a promise to yourself that you’re going to work toward your home goals by the end of the year. Maybe the to-do list will be finished, maybe it will be barely started. But I believe Confuscius said “The journey of 1,000 miles begins with the first step.” And whether that first step starts with calling me as a professional opinion or as a dear friend, it’s time to take it.